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3 Keys to Thriving as an LDS Single

By Jonathan Decker, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Author’s note: I have a great respect for the beliefs of others and have learned much from them. Although I am a devout Latter-day Saint, I do not impose my beliefs upon my clients and I support their worldviews in therapy. I include this article here so that all of my writings can be found in one place. This article originally appea ...[Read More]

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Marriage Foundations: Built to Last

By Jonathan Decker, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist I recently appeared on The HD Radio Show with Bryan Hyde to discuss the principles and practices of lasting marriages, including smart dating before marriage and healthy sexuality within that relationship. We also touched on building strong stepfamilies and followed up on Utah’s declaration of pornography as a public health crisis. W ...[Read More]

Forgiveness Doesn’t Mean Trust

Forgiveness Doesn’t Mean Trust

By Jonathan Decker, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist There seems to be a widespread belief, especially among those who’ve hurt others, that with forgiveness comes a restoration of trust. In other words, if the offended individual doesn’t trust the offender and resume the same relationship with them, then the offended has not truly forgiven. Nothing could be further from the truth ...[Read More]

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Are You Unknowingly Preventing Your Partner’s Growth?

Want your partner to change? You might accidentally be hurting your cause. Here's what to do differently.

not about the nail

Not About the Nail? How to Fix & Validate Simultaneously

By Jonathan Decker, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist You’ve likely seen the hilarious YouTube video “It’s Not About the Nail,” about the wife with a nail in her forehead, telling her husband about the pressure and pain she constantly feels. He suggests that she get the nail removed and grows frustrated when she insists that “it’s not about the nail,” ...[Read More]

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Good is Sexy: Why Bad Boys and Wild Girls are Overrated

By Jonathan Decker, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Whether it’s art imitating life or vice versa, society at large seems to agree with a prevalent theme of pop culture: nice guys and good girls are boring, while bad boys and “girls gone wild” are attractive and exciting. Allow me to challenge this frothy fiction with the potency of reality: there is nothing more attractive than ...[Read More]

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‘Bored Restaurant Couples’- Are They Actually Happy?

By Jonathan Decker, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist There may be no greater argument against lifelong monogamy than the bored couple in the restaurant. “Oh heaven, please don’t let us end up like them,” you may have thought as you observe them silently picking at their food, looking at their phones, or vacantly scanning the restaurant for something presumably more interest ...[Read More]

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Avoiding Abusive Relationships (& Building Good Ones)

Four keys to help you date smart and avoid jerks.