marriage

two to tango

Two to Tango? When it Really IS One Spouse’s Fault

By Jonathan Decker, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist “I’m not the problem, he is.” “It’s not my fault, it’s hers.” Many individuals feel this way in their relationships. Despite the popularity of the axiom “it takes two to tango,” many are quick to blame their partner instead of first looking at their own role in molding the situation. Th ...[Read More]

marriage foundations

Marriage Foundations: Built to Last

By Jonathan Decker, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist I recently appeared on The HD Radio Show with Bryan Hyde to discuss the principles and practices of lasting marriages, including smart dating before marriage and healthy sexuality within that relationship. We also touched on building strong stepfamilies and followed up on Utah’s declaration of pornography as a public health crisis. W ...[Read More]

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20 Movies That’ll Strengthen Your Marriage

By Jonathan Decker, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Hollywood favors “falling in love” stories rather than “staying in love” stories. Healthy, long-lasting marriages are far too often viewed by Tinseltown as dramatically stale, but there are exceptions to this rule. Below are 20 of my favorite  cinematic depictions of what it takes to make love last. Click on the tit ...[Read More]

Jekyll & Hyde Syndrome: When Loved Ones Go Bad

Jekyll & Hyde Syndrome: When Loved Ones Go Bad

By Jonathan Decker, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist We’ve all experienced it, the “Jekyll-and-Hyde Syndrome,” in which a normally decent partner, friend, or family member turns into an irrational dolt and/or grumpy monster. We feel frustrated when they won’t listen to reason, hurt when they lash out, and confused when they make choices we don’t agree with. In life and in my therapy pr ...[Read More]

more love, less conflict

Do Your Relationships Need Less Conflict… Or More Love?

Many believe that their relationships need less fighting and withdrawing, but what they really need is more affection.

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Marriage Counseling: Is It Ever Too Late?

By Jonathan Decker, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Terminal illnesses are treated most effectively when they are caught early. Patients who resist a trip to the doctor and put it off often wish that they hadn’t. Disease often does the most damage when it’s left unchecked over time. This is also true of marital problems and marriage counseling. While many things can certainly be ...[Read More]

Forgiveness Doesn’t Mean Trust

Forgiveness Doesn’t Mean Trust

By Jonathan Decker, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist There seems to be a widespread belief, especially among those who’ve hurt others, that with forgiveness comes a restoration of trust. In other words, if the offended individual doesn’t trust the offender and resume the same relationship with them, then the offended has not truly forgiven. Nothing could be further from the truth ...[Read More]

marriage's real golden rule

The Real ‘Golden Rule’ of Marriage

By Jonathan Decker, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist “Treat others the way you want to be treated.” The Golden Rule has been the standard of behavior in friendships, business partnerships, customer service, and much more. In marriage, however, it can actually lead to problems. Might I suggest an amendment? “Treat your spouse the way he or she wants to be treated.” How ...[Read More]

amazing married sex

Amazing Married Sex: Myths and Truths

By Jonathan Decker, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Have you ever stumbled while speaking in public or fumbled a job interview? Odds are, you were putting too much pressure on yourself to perform. While it’s important to be fully engaged and to give our best efforts, the times when we are relaxed and accepting of imperfection are generally the times that we do our best. This is as tru ...[Read More]

20 movies that'll strengthen your marriage

20 Movies That’ll Strengthen Your Marriage

By Jonathan Decker, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Hollywood favors “falling in love” stories rather than “staying in love” stories. Healthy, long-lasting marriages are far too often viewed by Tinseltown as dramatically stale, but there are exceptions to this rule. Below are 20 of my favorite  cinematic depictions of what it takes to make love last. Click on the tit ...[Read More]