parenting

media

Media, Morality, and Moderation

By Jonathan Decker, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Recently I was a guest on The HD Radio Show with Bryan Hyde, where we discussed the portrayal of believers in pop culture, how to use media to bond with your children and teach them values, how to find uplifting and wholesome movies, and more. Have a listen!

amazing moms do

7 Things Amazing Moms Do

By Jonathan Decker, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist See also: 7 Things Amazing Dads Do In my observation as a counselor, the person who most influences an individual’s life is generally their mother. For better or worse, many trace the foundation of their identities back to their relationship with their mom and what they learned from her. Such was definitely the case with me. My mothe ...[Read More]

gratitude

Gratitude: The Cure for Entitlement

An attitude of gratitude will dispel the damaging sense of entitlement and replace it with appreciation.

Jekyll & Hyde Syndrome: When Loved Ones Go Bad

Jekyll & Hyde Syndrome: When Loved Ones Go Bad

By Jonathan Decker, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist We’ve all experienced it, the “Jekyll-and-Hyde Syndrome,” in which a normally decent partner, friend, or family member turns into an irrational dolt and/or grumpy monster. We feel frustrated when they won’t listen to reason, hurt when they lash out, and confused when they make choices we don’t agree with. In life and in my therapy pr ...[Read More]

more love, less conflict

Do Your Relationships Need Less Conflict… Or More Love?

Many believe that their relationships need less fighting and withdrawing, but what they really need is more affection.

bullies

Why Pitying Bullies Decreases Their Power

By Jonathan Decker, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist In the 2007 film adaptation of Harry Potter and the Order of the Phoenix, our hero finds himself in a confrontation with his parents’ murderer, Voldemort, an evil wizard so terrifying that people dare not say his name. Harry has dreaded this moment, which is something his adversary takes full advantage of. Voldemort possesses Harry&# ...[Read More]

7 things amazing dads do

7 Things Amazing Dads Do

By Jonathan Decker, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist While some dads are deadbeats and some mothers truly do an amazing job raising kids on their own, the lasting effects of a great father cannot be underestimated. I should know, because my dad is amazing. I say this neither to boast nor to gush, but rather because, in both my personal and professional opinion, he’s got this dad thing ...[Read More]

successful stepfamilies

Keys for Successful Stepfamilies

By Jonathan Decker, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Although increasingly common, stepfamilies (or “blended” families) are often misunderstood. Old-fashioned types may see them as abnormal. Well-meaning “progressives” erroneously assume that blended families are the same as first-marriage families “once the dust settles.” Research and experience demonstrate, however, that “the i ...[Read More]

Helping Men and Boys to be Honest, Accountable

Helping Men and Boys to be Honest, Accountable

By Jonathan Decker, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Note: this article represents a combination of the author’s insights and information from the book How to Improve You Marriage Without Talking About It, by Steven Stosny Ph.d and Patricia Love.  For the record, dishonesty, manipulation, and blame-shifting aren’t exclusively male problems. We all know women and girls who do the same. Also, ...[Read More]

The Power of Apologizing to Your Kids

The Power of Apologizing to Your Kids

By Jonathan Decker, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist For some time I have been struck with just how many of my clients, while dealing with their own mental, emotional, or relational struggles, mention that they had a parent who “always had to be right,” and “never took accountability for anything.” While they cannot blame their parents for their behavior, the fact is ...[Read More]