self-esteem

Flexibility in Pursuing Dreams

Be Flexible While Pursuing Your Dreams

By Jonathan Decker, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist I saw Jaws at entirely too young of an age. The film terrified me, but it also sparked a lifelong obsession with sharks, particularly Great Whites (the species in the movie). For decades I fantasized about climbing into a cage and seeing one up close. It was on my bucket list. I once had the opportunity to cage-dive in shark-infested water ...[Read More]

bullies

Why Pitying Bullies Decreases Their Power

By Jonathan Decker, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist In the 2007 film adaptation of Harry Potter and the Order of the Phoenix, our hero finds himself in a confrontation with his parents’ murderer, Voldemort, an evil wizard so terrifying that people dare not say his name. Harry has dreaded this moment, which is something his adversary takes full advantage of. Voldemort possesses Harry&# ...[Read More]

exercise for sanity not vanity

Exercise: It’s About Sanity, Not Vanity

By Jonathan Decker, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist When I was younger, working out was all about how I would look in my swimming trunks. In my 20’s it seemed easier to find time for it. As I’ve gotten older, the challenges of balancing career, marriage, and parenthood have contributed to the mentality that I’m “too busy” or “too tired” to exercise. ...[Read More]

god's love

How God’s Love Can Help You to Love Yourself

By Jonathan Decker, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Billions of people worldwide believe in God in some form or another. One of the most universal doctrines is that God loves everyone. Sometimes people settle into the idea that “God loves everyone simply because He’s God.” To me, this is a lazy, impractical theology. If God just arbitrarily loves everyone, vaguely and coll ...[Read More]