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positive thinking

When Positive Thinking Doesn’t Work

By Jonathan Decker, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist “I’m good enough, I’m smart enough, and doggone it, people like me.” This satirical self-affirmation, made famous by Saturday Night Live character Stuart Smalley, highlights the type of thinking advised by many therapists, researchers, life coaches, and others. While there is much research to support the power of positive thinking, sometim ...[Read More]

god's love

How God’s Love Can Help You to Love Yourself

By Jonathan Decker, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Billions of people worldwide believe in God in some form or another. One of the most universal doctrines is that God loves everyone. Sometimes people settle into the idea that “God loves everyone simply because He’s God.” To me, this is a lazy, impractical theology. If God just arbitrarily loves everyone, vaguely and coll ...[Read More]

Fight Less, Connect More- 5 Steps to Greater Intimacy

Fight Less, Connect More- 5 Steps to Greater Intimacy

By Jonathan Decker, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist The most rewarding aspect of my work is helping to heal relationships. We all have the need to feel connected, to feel loved and accepted, and to give our support and affection to others. Sadly sweetness can turn to bitterness in our friendships, families, work partnerships, and romantic relationships. We sometimes wonder how it all went w ...[Read More]