By Jonathan Decker, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist If your marriage has been rocked by an affair, join me for my free online Healing From Infidelity course. Few things are more devastating than learning that a partner’s been unfaithful. You commit yourself, your life, your time, your energy, and your heart to someone, and they betray all of it. How could they do this? Especially when they ...[Read More]
Why Do Some Spouses Cheat (Even When They Say “I Love You?”)
Healing from Betrayal Trauma in Your Marriage
By Jonathan Decker, LMFT This is the third of a four-article series. To reserve a spot in my free online class, “How to Heal from Infidelity,” click here. Can a spouse’s affair lead to post-traumatic stress disorder? For some, the question seems overly-dramatic. “Surely it’s heartbreaking,” they say, “but PTSD is for cops, assault victims, firefighters, and war veterans.” However, as D ...[Read More]
Your Partner Betrayed You. Should You Be Done?
By Jonathan Decker (Clinical Director, LMFT) Get answers. Get support. Sign up for our free “How to Heal From Infidelity” class here. Your world's been upended. Most likely, you believed (or at least hoped) that your spouse was reserving the romantic and sexual sides of themselves for you and your marriage, only to discover that that's not true. He or she wasn't true to you. There was a secret phy ...[Read More]
Your Spouse Had an Affair. Now What?
By Jonathan Decker, Clinical Director, LMFT Get answers. Get support. Sign up for our free “How to Heal From Infidelity” class here. There may be nothing so devastating to a marriage as infidelity. The eradicated trust, the deep wounds of betrayal, and the feelings of shame create a perfect storm, wreaking havoc from which many never come back. If this is your current situation, know that through ...[Read More]
How to Grow Your Business While Strengthening Your Marriage
By Jonathan Decker, Clinical Director, LMFT Entrepreneurs of necessity take risks in pursuit of financial independence, yet the largest risk is often that running a business can ruin your marriage. The long hours away from the family, the stress one brings home, and the financial strain have driven many couples apart. It’s compounded when spouses are business partners: the lines between marriage a ...[Read More]
Can Conflict Actually Bring You Closer Together?
Click here for your FREE online lessons (described in video). By Jonathan Decker (Clinical Director, LMFT) We all have the need to feel connected, to feel loved and accepted, and to give our support and affection to others. Sadly sweetness can turn to bitterness in our friendships, families, work partnerships, and romantic relationships. We sometimes wonder how it all went wrong and how to connect ...[Read More]
Is it Ever Just One Spouse’s Fault? (The Answer Will Surprise You)
By Jonathan Decker, Clinical Director, LMFT “I'm not the problem, he is.” “It's not my fault, it's hers.” Many individuals feel this way in their relationships. Despite the popularity of the axiom “it takes two to tango,” many are quick to blame their partner instead of first looking at their own role in molding the situation. The truth is, both partners created ...[Read More]
Is Your Marriage Built to Last? How to Know For Sure.
By Jonathan Decker (Clinical director, LMFT) I recently appeared on The HD Radio Show with Bryan Hyde to discuss the principles and practices of lasting marriages, including smart dating before marriage and healthy sexuality within that relationship. We also touched on building strong step-families and followed up on our previous discussion about Utah declaring pornography to be public health cris ...[Read More]
7 Things Amazing Moms Do
By Jonathan Decker (Clinical Director, LMFT) See also: 7 Things Amazing Dads Do In my observation as a counselor, the person who most influences an individual's life is generally their mother. For better or worse, many trace the foundation of their identities back to their relationship with their mom and what they learned from her. Such was definitely the case with me. My mother passed away in 200 ...[Read More]
Is it Possible to Cure Entitlement in Your Family?
An attitude of gratitude will dispel the damaging sense of entitlement and replace it with appreciation.