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Your Partner Betrayed You. Should You Be Done?

Your Partner Betrayed You. Should You Be Done?

By Jonathan Decker (Clinical Director, LMFT) Get answers. Get support. Sign up for our free “How to Heal From Infidelity” class here. Your world’s been upended. Most likely, you believed (or at least hoped) that your spouse was reserving the romantic and sexual sides of themselves for you and your marriage, only to discover that that’s not true. He or she wasn’t true to you. Ther ...[Read More]

Your Spouse Had an Affair. Now What?

Your Spouse Had an Affair. Now What?

By Jonathan Decker, Clinical Director, LMFT Get answers. Get support. Sign up for our free “How to Heal From Infidelity” class here. There may be nothing so devastating to a marriage as infidelity. The eradicated trust, the deep wounds of betrayal, and the feelings of shame create a perfect storm, wreaking havoc from which many never come back. If this is your current situation, know that through ...[Read More]

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How to Grow Your Business While Strengthening Your Marriage

By Jonathan Decker, Clinical Director, LMFT Entrepreneurs of necessity take risks in pursuit of financial independence, yet the largest risk is often that running a business can ruin your marriage. The long hours away from the family, the stress one brings home, and the financial strain have driven many couples apart. It’s compounded when spouses are business partners: the lines between marriage a ...[Read More]

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Can Conflict Actually Bring You Closer Together?

Click here for your FREE online lessons (described in video). By Jonathan Decker (Clinical Director, LMFT) We all have the need to feel connected, to feel loved and accepted, and to give our support and affection to others. Sadly sweetness can turn to bitterness in our friendships, families, work partnerships, and romantic relationships. We sometimes wonder how it all went wrong and how to connect ...[Read More]

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Is it Ever Just One Spouse’s Fault? (The Answer Will Surprise You)

By Jonathan Decker, Clinical Director, LMFT “I’m not the problem, he is.” “It’s not my fault, it’s hers.” Many individuals feel this way in their relationships. Despite the popularity of the axiom “it takes two to tango,” many are quick to blame their partner instead of first looking at their own role in molding the situation. The truth is, bot ...[Read More]

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Is Your Marriage Built to Last? How to Know For Sure.

By Jonathan Decker (Clinical director, LMFT) I recently appeared on The HD Radio Show with Bryan Hyde to discuss the principles and practices of lasting marriages, including smart dating before marriage and healthy sexuality within that relationship. We also touched on building strong step-families and followed up on our previous discussion about Utah declaring pornography to be public health cris ...[Read More]

4 Ways to Handle Your Spouse Changing from Jekyll to Hyde

4 Ways to Handle Your Spouse Changing from Jekyll to Hyde

By Jonathan Decker, Clinical Director, LMFT We’ve all experienced it, the “Jekyll-and-Hyde Syndrome,” in which a normally decent partner, friend, or family member turns into an irrational dolt and/or grumpy monster. We feel frustrated when they won’t listen to reason, hurt when they lash out, and confused when they make choices we don’t agree with. In life and in my therapy practice, I’ve fo ...[Read More]

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Do Your Relationships Need Less Conflict… Or More Love?

Many believe that their relationships need less fighting and withdrawing, but what they really need is more affection.

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Will Your Marriage Last? This Could Make All the Difference

By Jonathan Decker, Clinical Director, LMFT Terminal illnesses are treated most effectively when they are caught early. Patients who resist a trip to the doctor and put it off often wish that they hadn’t. Disease often does the most damage when it’s left unchecked over time. This is also true of marital problems and marriage counseling. While many things can certainly be resolved and h ...[Read More]

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Never Treat Your Spouse “Like You Want to be Treated.” Do This Instead.

By Jonathan Decker, Clinical Director, LMFT “Treat others the way you want to be treated.” The Golden Rule has been the standard of behavior in friendships, business partnerships, customer service, and much more. In marriage, however, it can actually lead to problems. Might I suggest an amendment? “Treat your spouse the way he or she wants to be treated.” How to Love Your S ...[Read More]