Parenting

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Media, Morality, and Moderation

By Jonathan Decker, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Recently I was a guest on The HD Radio Show with Bryan Hyde, where we discussed the portrayal of believers in pop culture, how to use media to bond with your children and teach them values, how to find uplifting and wholesome movies, and more. Have a listen!

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7 Things Amazing Moms Do

By Jonathan Decker, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist See also: 7 Things Amazing Dads Do In my observation as a counselor, the person who most influences an individual’s life is generally their mother. For better or worse, many trace the foundation of their identities back to their relationship with their mom and what they learned from her. Such was definitely the case with me. My mothe ...[Read More]

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Gratitude: The Cure for Entitlement

An attitude of gratitude will dispel the damaging sense of entitlement and replace it with appreciation.

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Do Your Relationships Need Less Conflict… Or More Love?

Many believe that their relationships need less fighting and withdrawing, but what they really need is more affection.

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Films for Fathers’ Day

By Jonathan Decker (Family therapist, film critic) Happy Father’s Day! Looking for a movie to celebrate with? Scroll on down for my suggestions. So make some wings and pizza, settle down on the couch with dad, and enjoy these touching tales of father-children relationships this week. Here are my favorite films for Father’s Day. BACK TO THE FUTURE (buy or rent here) A teenager travels b ...[Read More]

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Movies for Mother’s Day

By Jonathan Decker (Family therapist, film critic) For moms everywhere, here are my favorite examples of cinematic maternal love. Here’s my favorite movies for Mother’s Day. These titles are mostly all available to stream on VidAngel.  BACK TO THE FUTURE What if you could travel back in time and see your parents as teenagers? Marty McFly (Michael J. Fox) jumps from 1985 to 1955 and is ...[Read More]

7 things amazing dads do

7 Things Amazing Dads Do

By Jonathan Decker, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist While some dads are deadbeats and some mothers truly do an amazing job raising kids on their own, the lasting effects of a great father cannot be underestimated. I should know, because my dad is amazing. I say this neither to boast nor to gush, but rather because, in both my personal and professional opinion, he’s got this dad thing ...[Read More]

Helping Men and Boys to be Honest, Accountable

Helping Men and Boys to be Honest, Accountable

By Jonathan Decker, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Note: this article represents a combination of the author’s insights and information from the book How to Improve You Marriage Without Talking About It, by Steven Stosny Ph.d and Patricia Love.  For the record, dishonesty, manipulation, and blame-shifting aren’t exclusively male problems. We all know women and girls who do the same. Also, ...[Read More]

Fight Less, Connect More- 5 Steps to Greater Intimacy

Fight Less, Connect More- 5 Steps to Greater Intimacy

By Jonathan Decker, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist The most rewarding aspect of my work is helping to heal relationships. We all have the need to feel connected, to feel loved and accepted, and to give our support and affection to others. Sadly sweetness can turn to bitterness in our friendships, families, work partnerships, and romantic relationships. We sometimes wonder how it all went w ...[Read More]

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Should You Ever Apologize to Your Child?

By Jonathan Decker (Clinical Director, LMFT) For some time I have been struck with just how many of my clients, while dealing with their own mental, emotional, or relational struggles, mention that they had a parent who “always had to be right,” and “never took accountability for anything.” While they cannot ultimately blame their parents for their own behavior, the fact is ...[Read More]