Is it Ever Just One Spouse’s Fault? (The Answer Will Surprise You)

By Jonathan Decker, Clinical Director, LMFT “I'm not the problem, he is.” “It's not my fault, it's hers.” Many individuals feel this way in their relationships. Despite the popularity of the axiom “it takes two to tango,” many are quick to blame their partner instead of first looking at their own role in molding the situation. The truth is, both partners created ...[Read More]


These Real-Life Superheroes Rescue Child Slaves. You Can Help.

By Jonathan Decker (Family therapist, film critic) WHAT'S THE ABOLITIONISTS ABOUT? This documentary follows an undercover task force as they take down human traffickers and rescue child slavery victims.  (BUY IT HERE) IS IT ANY GOOD? (GRADE: A) Those who've seen Taken (the first one, not the rubbish sequels) have been introduced to the heartbreaking, seedy world of child trafficking, albeit throug ...[Read More]


Forgiveness Doesn’t Mean Trust

By Jonathan Decker, Clinical director, LMFT There seems to be a widespread belief, especially among those who've hurt others, that with forgiveness comes a restoration of trust. In other words, if the offended individual doesn't trust the offender and resume the same relationship with them, then the offended has not truly forgiven. Nothing could be further from the truth. Forgiveness is nothing mo ...[Read More]

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4 Ways to Avoid Abusive Relationships

Four keys to help you date smart and avoid jerks.