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How to Grow Your Business While Strengthening Your Marriage

By Jonathan Decker, Clinical Director, LMFT Entrepreneurs of necessity take risks in pursuit of financial independence, yet the largest risk is often that running a business can ruin your marriage. The long hours away from the family, the stress one brings home, and the financial strain have driven many couples apart. It’s compounded when spouses are business partners: the lines between marriage a ...[Read More]

gratitude

Is it Possible to Cure Entitlement in Your Family?

An attitude of gratitude will dispel the damaging sense of entitlement and replace it with appreciation.

4 Ways to Handle Your Spouse Changing from Jekyll to Hyde

4 Ways to Handle Your Spouse Changing from Jekyll to Hyde

By Jonathan Decker, Clinical Director, LMFT We’ve all experienced it, the “Jekyll-and-Hyde Syndrome,” in which a normally decent partner, friend, or family member turns into an irrational dolt and/or grumpy monster. We feel frustrated when they won’t listen to reason, hurt when they lash out, and confused when they make choices we don’t agree with. In life and in my therapy practice, I’ve fo ...[Read More]

Why the “Bored Couple at the Restaurant” May be the Happiest

Why the “Bored Couple at the Restaurant” May be the Happiest

By Jonathan Decker, Clinical Director, LMFT There may be no greater argument against lifelong monogamy than the bored couple in the restaurant. “Oh heaven, please don't let us end up like them,” you may have thought as you observe them silently picking at their food, looking at their phones, or vacantly scanning the restaurant for something presumably more interesting than their partne ...[Read More]

not about the nail

You Just Want to Be Heard, He Wants to “Fix It.” Why Not Both?

By Jonathan Decker, (Clinical Director, LMFT) You've likely seen the hilarious YouTube video “It's Not About the Nail,” about the wife with a nail in her forehead, telling her husband about the pressure and pain she constantly feels. He suggests that she get the nail removed and grows frustrated when she insists that “it's not about the nail,” wanting him to validate her fe ...[Read More]