By Jonathan Decker, Clinical Director, LMFT Have you ever stumbled while speaking in public or fumbled a job interview? Odds are, you were putting too much pressure on yourself to perform. While it's important to be fully engaged and to give our best efforts, the times when we are relaxed and accepting of imperfection are generally the times that we do our best. This is as true for sex as it is fo ...[Read More]
Amazing Married Sex: Myths and Truths
Why You Should Exercise for Sanity, Not Vanity
By Jonathan Decker, Clinical Director, LMFT When I was younger, working out was all about how I would look in my swimming trunks. In my 20's it seemed easier to find time for it. As I've gotten older, the challenges of balancing career, marriage, and parenthood have contributed to the mentality that I'm “too busy” or “too tired” to exercise. What's more, I've tried to justi ...[Read More]
The Key to Sexual Fulfillment? It’s Not What Many People Think
By Jonathan Decker, Clinical Director, LMFT This article contains a frank, but not crass, discussion of sex and is intended for mature readers. CHASING AFTER MIRAGES You see the headlines screaming at you from the magazine rack at the grocery store. They say things like “Rock His World Tonight,” and “101 Forbidden Positions to Spice Things Up!” If you check your junk mail ...[Read More]
How is Casual Sex Affecting Our Teens? You’ll Never Guess
By Jonathan Decker (Clinical Director, LMFT) For all our warnings of teen pregnancy and STD's, we often overlook that the risks of sexual contact for adolescents also include emotional trauma and long-term problems in future relationships. Such is the conclusion of a fantastic book I recently read. With clear and engaging prose, Dr. Joe S. MciIlhaney and Dr. Freda McKissic Bush report on years of ...[Read More]