kindness

what jesus wants for christmas

The Forgotten Gift That Jesus Wants for Christmas

By Jonathan Decker, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist I’m not sure how I’d feel if for my birthday, my friends gave gifts to everyone but me. Yet that’s exactly what Jesus wants, if the scriptures are to be believed. One of his most familiar teachings gains fresh meaning when applied to the Christmas season: “I was an hungered and ye gave me meat. I was thirsty, and ye gave me to drink. I was ...[Read More]

Peanuts Movie

THE PEANUTS MOVIE Family Movie Review

By Jonathan Decker (Family therapist, film critic) WHAT'S THE PEANUTS MOVIE ABOUT? Charlie Brown deals with feelings of inadequacy while trying to impress the “little red-haired girl” who just moved in across the street. IS IT ANY GOOD? (GRADE: A) I suspect that the late Charles Schulz would be pleased. The Peanuts Movie was written by his son and grandson, and it does justice to the c ...[Read More]

spouse

Never Treat Your Spouse “Like You Want to be Treated.” Do This Instead.

By Jonathan Decker, Clinical Director, LMFT “Treat others the way you want to be treated.” The Golden Rule has been the standard of behavior in friendships, business partnerships, customer service, and much more. In marriage, however, it can actually lead to problems. Might I suggest an amendment? “Treat your spouse the way he or she wants to be treated.” How to Love Your S ...[Read More]

bullies

Are Your Kids Being Bullied? Teach Them This Trick

By Jonathan Decker, Clinical Director, LMFT In the 2007 film adaptation of Harry Potter and the Order of the Phoenix, our hero finds himself in a confrontation with his parents' murderer, Voldemort, an evil wizard so terrifying that people dare not say his name. Harry has dreaded this moment, which is something his adversary takes full advantage of. Voldemort possesses Harry's body, tormenting his ...[Read More]

How to Balance Self-Care with Helping Others

How to Balance Self-Care with Helping Others

By Jonathan Decker, Clinical Director, LMFT When I was young, my father and I bonded over archery. Dad taught me that I had to unstring the bow when I wasn't using it, allowing the wood to straighten and the cord to dangle loose. If I didn't allow the bow to rest, or in other words, if I left the cord tight and the wood bent, I'd ruin the bow. Over time, it’d no longer be taut. The wood would spli ...[Read More]

happy

Can You Really Stay Happy, No Matter What?

By Jonathan Decker, Clinical Director, LMFT One night, while stargazing near Brian Head, UT I noticed an especially bright star in my right periphery. Stunned by its brilliance, I shifted my gaze to admire it directly. It disappeared. Black space existed where the star had been. Thinking that I was mistaken, I looked elsewhere only to have it appear again, shining brightly once more in my peripher ...[Read More]